Friday, August 12, 2011

Internet Anonymity for People like Us

Yesterday on the radio, the show I listen to did a story about this: Gawker.  The hosts were all for it, saying that anonymity on the internet is bad, because it allows people to say things they wouldn't say out in public.  They said that people should have to get some kind of license to go online to post to blogs and message boards, using their real names, so that you'd know exactly who said what.  All I could think was that it would shut down whole sections of the internet.  Spanking on tv has become slightly more mainstream, but so much of society still thinks that what we do is worse than being gay, and we know how they feel about THAT.  We go on Twitter and we write our blogs anonymously, for our own protection for the most part.  Some of us have careers or spouses or friends and relatives who can't find out about what we're into, because it would cause serious problems.  We HAVE to have anonymity online so that we can interact with other people like us.  We can't go back to the old days when we had almost no connection to other people who did what we did, putting pricey ads in the backs of free newspapers to find somebody to spank or be spanked by.  There was a scene back then, but not like it is now, where we can talk to so many people all over the world who think the way we do, and want the same things.  Losing that would be devastating for all of us.  I'm out to some friends, but I keep my Twitter and Facebook personas totally separate for a reason.  There are relatives and work friends on Facebook who I don't want finding out about this, because I've had some bad experiences with people finding out in the past.  One of my uncles is born again, and his only thought filter is his religion.  I doubt he'd take the news well if he found out.  I don't feel like being ostracized by half the people I know and/or love.  Also, G. isn't out at ALL, and if what I do online got out, it would be very easy for his friends to figure out the connection.  I would never do that to him, so I would have to stop posting.     

What they said bothered me so much that later in the day I emailed one of the hosts, whom I have emailed before about trivial things, so I had his email address already.  I told him about those of us who require anonymity to do what we do online.  I haven't had an answer yet, and I may not, but at least I let him know the part of the concept that he obviously hadn't thought about at all.  I'll post if I get an answer.  

Thursday, August 4, 2011

New York, Here I Come!

Finally got to talk to G. about my plan last night.  I had a backup plan in case going there didn't work for him, meaning I would pay his way here.  I've done it before, so there's precedent.  When I asked him last night though, he said, If you want to come out this way, I'm fine with it.  If we were a couple that would be an odd way to put it, but we're not, we're friends with the spanking relationship added in.  The fact that he didn't even hesitate meant a lot.  There was no discussing it, "well, if you were to come here, then....".  It was just outright and made me very hyper!  I'll get a hotel room, because with his living arrangements, it's the only way we'll get a chance to play.  The hotel I found is less than two miles from where he lives, so it'll be very easy for him.  I just like the fact that we're finally going to be able to reconnect.  As much as I love going to Worldcon, we haven't seen each other in three years, and we need some time just to get back into the swing of things.  With everything there is to do at Worldcon, we don't have much time to just BE, and playing gets relegated to 3 in the morning most of the time.  If it's just the two of us, we can just hang around doing what we want, and playing happens when we want it to.  Most of the time that isn't until late on the first day, after we've had time to adjust to being in the same place again after so long.  We've been friends for twelve years, and we're comfortable with each other to the point of acting like an old married couple, but that first day needs to be relaxed into.  I get so hyped before I see him that I would bounce off the walls otherwise.   

I'm going to get SO spanked when I'm there.   I will take videos and pics, and I will show off any marks I manage to get.  I will convince him to use the heavy cane so that I will have wonderful cane marks, but not sure about bruises.  I don't seem to bruise all that much anymore.  So annoying.  I love bruises and marks.  We'll probably play hard enough that he'll manage to bruise me some though.  He knows how hard I like it.  I told him we'll have to experiment with The Evil Whippy Thing, because even with ME using it, it's a bitch.  With him, I don't know how bad it will be.  He'll have to hold back some at first, so we can gauge the results.  I wonder if he CAN hold back.  It's not something he does most of the time!

By the time I leave, sometime in the middle of October, I'm going to be bouncing off the walls.  Can't wait!

Monday, August 1, 2011

My two cents about Twitter

Since I was part of Abel's conversation about Twitter, I figured I might as well continue it, along with everybody else. 

Twitter is my connection to my spanking friends.  I can't do that on Facebook, because of relatives and work friends.  I'm pretty much out about what I do, except for those people.  My work wouldn't be affected, but I don't know what their reaction would be, so I leave that part of my life private.  I could never tell the relatives on Facebook about my kink, though some of them are very open about things.  I just can't see myself talking to them about it.  The newsgroup has faltered from what it once was, and all the people I knew there are now on Twitter, so I can connect with them on a more immediate basis there.  I NEED Twitter for that.  To be who I really am, to not have to think about what I say, to not have to hide anything.  To be as free as I want with the kink, and to be able to revel in the wonderfully kinky conversations I have on there.  I don't JUST talk about spanking, but it's the one place I CAN talk about it.  I've gained friends on there beyond the ones I knew from the newsgroup, so my horizons have broadened that way.  I don't tweet from a phone, because I refuse to pay that kind of money for a data plan, but when I get home I go through my timeline and catch up with everything people have been doing during the day.  Not everybody I follow is into spanking, but pretty much everybody who follows me is.  Until the past few months I didn't post much.  In April, after a whole year on Twitter, I only had 1,800 tweets.  I've become so much more involved that I have 4,614 tweets as of right now.  I tweet every day now, sometimes a lot during a day, especially later in the day when everybody's home.  I talk to people in different countries, all over the world, which for somebody who didn't get online until they were 34 is still sort of amazing sometimes.  It's difficult to remember what it was like pre-internet, when I didn't know that there were all these other people who have the same inclinations I do when it comes to spanking, and when I wasn't connected to so many great people.  I could never go back to being disconnected from the world, and Twitter is one of the things I'd miss now.